The definition of sexual assault is when a person intentionally touches another person sexually without consent, so why in 2017 when every part of society is moving forward and improving, does this kind of sexual assault seem to be increasing?
I want to know what is going through the mind of a boy who has decided that it’s okay to grab a girl’s head towards him, someone who is a complete stranger to him in a club, or the boy who slaps a girl’s bum at the bar then turns round and laughs with his friend and the boy who has decided that it’s acceptable to put his hand up a girl’s dress, squeeze her bum and call her hot when her boyfriend is right in front of her and he knows it.
What’s really disgusting is that in each of these scenarios that girl has been me, and what is even more disgusting is that this has only been in the past 2 weeks. It has left me feeling like an object rather than a person, asking myself whether I was doing something wrong, was I wearing something too revealing? If I hadn’t been wearing a dress, would that boy not have put his hand on my bum? If my boyfriend hadn’t been there, would that boy have tried to take it further than squeezing my bum?
I’m writing this post at 12:30 am because I can’t sleep, I’m upset and saddened by the way ‘casual’ sexual assault is becoming a regular occurance and I’m sick of feeling like I’ve done something to trigger it when I haven’t. It isn’t what I’m wearing or what I’m doing, it’s because certain boys seem to think it’s okay? Well for the record, ITS NOT.
If a girl gets this kind of attention from men, it doesn’t make her a slut, nor a slag or even ‘just that type of girl’. It has lead to a culture that trivialises this behaviour and means that often the victim is left feeling doubted and blamed through no fault of their own. Without pointing out this behaviour, its spiralling into society thinking that such assaults as these are commonplace and too insignificant to report. Using words such as ‘groping’ to describe these assaults just lessen the act and make them easier to dismiss, passing them off as ‘just a joke’ or ‘only a touch’.
These assaults DO affect women’s lives and need to be stopped. IT IS important enough to report. IT IS ASSAULT.